Two polls about toys
How do you feel about integrating toys into sex play?
- Toys definitely enhance the pleasure. (60%)
- They’re nice for special occasions. (20%)
- Can’t come without them! (10%)
- What do you mean, toys? (10%)
- We just use what God gave us! (0%)
Total Votes: 10
Loading …How do you feel about integrating toys into masturbation?
- They definitely enhance the pleasure. (60%)
- Can’t come without them! (20%)
- They’re nice for special occasions. (10%)
- What do you mean, toys? (10%)
- I just use what God gave me! (0%)
Total Votes: 10
Loading …Now the obvious question we’d like you to answer in comments would be: Which toys?
In case anyone is interested, Sex Calumny would like to start posting reviews of sex toys in addition to our reviews of films and books. Some of us remember our first embarrassing and bewildering forays into the world of pleasure enhancers - even taking into consideration the wonderful wide variation of how toys are used by individuals, imagine how useful it would have been to have had a sense of what’s out there and how it might work!
August 7th, 2007 at 10:07 am
Toys can be so much fun! My man and I often use toys. If I don’t get off before he does, there’s always BOB (battery operated boyfried) and he never fails! There are also toy that we like to use together, like vibrating cock rings that stimulate my clit and turn him into my “real live” vibrator.
As for by myself, I really have a hard time coming to orgasm with just “what God gave me.” I need a little help and there are so many tools that’ll help do the trick. Why deny myself?
Are there men that are still feel threatened by dildos, and other toys? I have a friend who feel asleep one night after pleasure herself with a little aid… when her boyfreind got into bed later and found it, he screamed, “AHH there’s a dick in the bed!” He was angry at her for weeks. His ego was hurt and he felt inadequate. When using toys with a partner, I think it’s important to make sure that they know that toys are an enhancement to the pleasure, and not a replacement or substitute for what they are lacking.
August 8th, 2007 at 12:06 pm
@Kittycat: do you actually find those vibrating cock rings do anything useful? I’ve never found it easy to get them in the right place and almost impossible to keep them there without drastically changing the natural way in which my SO and I fit together and the ways in which we move.
August 9th, 2007 at 8:53 am
Kitty, that story about the dick in bed is both funny and tragic! It reminds me of a scene from The Oh in Ohio, which I reviewed a few months ago. I’m fortunate enough to have a partner that enjoys the accessories (for him as well as for me) as much as I do, so I forget that there are men who aren’t secure enough to deal with that.
I voted for “enhance the pleasure” in both cases, but I wanted to clarify “enhance,” because I’m not convinced that toy orgasms are better than without-toy orgasms. The best sexual discovery for me (following my belated but happy discovery of orgasms in the first place) is that orgasms can come in all kinds of different characters, with distinctly different sensations of buildup and release and emotional response. So, what’s great about toys for me is that they create a very different orgasm from what-God-gave-us, and they open up a variety of styles and positions that would otherwise be difficult for both partners to enjoy.
I think if your poor friend’s boyfriend understood that, he’d have been a little more excited to find a “dick teammate” (as one character in Oh in Ohio described it). ; )
August 9th, 2007 at 9:29 am
Grumpy:
Me fave is one that I got at a pure romance party… It’s called doulble trouble (https://pureromance.com/EC_ProductView.aspx?categoryID=5&pid=89an) is a ring that has a vibrating egg on the top and another on the bottom, and works very nice. This doesn’t work for all sex positions, but works very nice with me on top and hit all of the right spots. I don’t use it the whole time during a sexual romp.
August 9th, 2007 at 10:03 am
@Kittycat, okay, I can see that working in positions with her on top. My experience has been that any amount of thrusting takes it out of contact with wherever it belongs, rendering it just irritating.